Abuse is still considered abuse, even when it comes from a place that you never expected — your job.

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Psychological and emotional abuse can be difficult to recognize. Sometimes all we know is that we feel horrible, and we don’t understand why. Frequently, we turn the blame toward ourselves. This is exactly what skilled manipulators want you to do.

The first person who informed me about emotional abuse was the woman who performed my intake interview at a battered women’s shelter. Since I wasn’t covered in bruises, I was awash in guilt…


Improve your life by embracing the art of traveling with purpose toward vague destinations.

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Have you ever heard the word coddiwomple? I’m going to go ahead and assume that you haven’t. I had never heard of it until about a month ago, and I’ve considered myself quite the “lover of words” for the majority of my life.

I learned that I’ve lived by the principles of coddiwomple for at least a fifth of my life. The good fifth.

Kismet, serendipity, and lollygag remain safely at the top of my list…


And why it has nothing to do with your horrible boss acting like such a…

I’ve had my share of crummy jobs and looking back, I realize that none of them were a waste of time.

Including the ones that felt like some medieval torture device.

Jobs are a lot like relationships. If it didn’t work out, as you and your tear-stained cheeks walk away, you realize lessons were learned that made you better — a better worker with experience, and many times, a better human.

There are things you can do right now to help make your job experience…


Polish your skills and look like a pro by avoiding a few interviewing pitfalls.

Over the past decade, I had the opportunity to conduct hundreds of interviews. The reason why this is good news for you is that I did everything the wrong way.

Fortunately, I learned from my mistakes and you can be the beneficiary of my misfortune. If you can avoid some of these same mistakes you’ll save your future self from experiencing such cringe-worthy events.

1. Don’t be afraid to ask for the big interviews.

You sell yourself short when you assume people won’t want to speak with you especially if you are just starting out. You’d…


In my late twenties, I was diagnosed with clinical depression by a leading, internationally known psychiatrist. He wrote me a prescription for two anti-depressants–explained that I would be on them for the remainder of my life–and sent me on my way.

He was wrong.

The medication left me feeling even worse. I lived in a fog of numbness for years and accepted his diagnosis without question, only to learn that my depression was not the result of some chemical imbalance.

It was the direct result of living in an emotionally abusive environment and being a text-book codependent.

Once I began…


Some Gobbler’s Knob wisdom to transform your life today.

I’ve met few people who dislike the 1993 movie Groundhog Day. Even if it’s not on the top of your favorites list, there are quite a few profound life lessons that you can draw from the comedic romp.

Lessons, that when you employ them in your life, have the capability of transforming your life before Punxsutawney Phil goes back to bed.

1. Life lessons repeat until we learn them.

Phil Connors: “What would you do if you were stuck in one place and every day was exactly the same and nothing that you did mattered?”

The overall message of…

Donlyn Turnbull

Writer | Producer — I help people find greater happiness and success through self-development and creating great content. Just not at the same time.

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